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Today is our eleventh anniversary.

Kind of. Because in India and Pakistan, weddings last for days and we never know whether to celebrate the day that we signed our papers or the day we had a ceremony.  So, we decided to celebrate the anniversary on a day when nothing happened.  Which was today.

A day that was relatively quiet and even.  Not a lot of flash.

In over a decade of marriage, I have learned a few things.  One of them is that love is a choice.  Passion ebbs and flows as does romance, but a happy marriage is one where each person wakes every morning and makes a decision to love the person next to them.  Or the person on the other side of the toddler sleeping next to them.

My wedding ring is simple.  It has a pretty nice size diamond on it with an antiqued platinum band.  My favorite part of my ring is the band.  It’s sturdy, predictable, beautiful and strong.  The diamond is beautiful, without it – the ring would be nothing but a circle of metal.

But that band?  It’s still my favorite part and for me, the light that the diamond casts gently over the sturdy, practical band is symbolic of how I feel about this marriage.  Passion and practicality. Love and commitment.

Happy Anniversary, Tariq.  Getting married to you is still the best thing I ever did.

I don’t quite know

How to say

How I feel

Those three words

Are said too much

They’re not enough

- “Chasing Cars”, Snow Patrol

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16 Responses to Lyrical Life: Happy Anniversary

  1. shiny says:

    Happy anniversary! Tariq is a lucky man for having you. And vice versa.

  2. Rachel says:

    Congrats! I agree that a marriage requires conscious work and there is always the ebb and flow. If you don’t expect that or work with it, you’re lost. I love your wedding ring. Simple and elegant. May you have many more years of wedded bliss.

  3. melissa love says:

    beautiful post. happy anniversary :-)

  4. Megan says:

    Happy Anniversary to you both. Love your rings; beautiful, elegant and simple. Like you. Except for the simple part. xo

  5. Nanna says:

    Happy anniversary to two of my favorite people – much love to you both!

  6. Deborah says:

    Decision to love – truer words, etc. I decided to love this post. Happy Anniversary!!

  7. Miss Britt says:

    Happy Anniversary to one of my favorite couples!

    (And great photo of pretty rings!)

  8. Sybil Law says:

    Happy 11th Anniversary!xoxo

  9. happy, happy anniversary! as a life long single woman, i can honestly say that there are few couples i am inspired by. you are tariq and truly inspiring. and give me hope.

    love to you both today and always!

  10. martymankins says:

    Happy Anniversary to you and Tariq.

  11. Jason says:

    Awww! So nice. I love your words, (I always love your words) about loving someone continually is a constant decision.

    Happy anniversary, my friend.

  12. Happy Anniversary to you and what a lovely post! We just celebrated our 10-year. I love what you said about a happy marriage being one where you make the decision to wake up and love the person next to you, etc…

    Tariq is one lucky stud!
    ;-)

  13. Lisa says:

    Happy (belated) anniversary, dear friend. May you have many more.

  14. Avitable says:

    Happy belated pseudo-anniversary date!

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