She Wants New Parents. Again.
I’ve been alone with the kids for a few days. Tariq is in Toronto and THANK-GOD, he’s coming home tomorrow.
Funny how much a parent (or parenting style) can change in just a few short years.
When N. was about 3, I told her no about something she wanted to do, and she told me she was going to get a new mommy.
I almost cried. In fact, no, you know what, I did cry.
Today, N. told me she was going to get new parents and my response?
“Yeah? Make sure you tell them how RUDE you were to the last ones you had and how you only want to eat things they DON’T have in the house.”
I’m sorry, I just was not up to getting out of my pajamas at 6:30p.m. so she could have “Steak’n'Shake” after I had “cooked” a perfectly good grilled cheese sandwich, sliced apples and fresh edamame. Stop it, it was delicious. Y. asked me for “more,” like, eight times and he hates food.
Who does she think she is? A frat boy at closing time that has suddenly decided he’s “hungry for burgers”?
So much has changed in just two short years.
The longest of which has been the past four days.
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Oh man. And I feel guilty because half the time I don’t want what my mom cooks (usually because I’m craving something else). At least this time you had a comeback! *high fives*
I don’t know…seems like a good comeback to me. Desperate times, my friend. Desperate times.
I like it, I’ll have to tuck it away for use in a couple of years. With a 3.5 year old I’m still getting over the shock of my first ‘I don’t love you mommy’ so it’s always good to know what’s around the bend *g*
I hear you! The first time my son pulled the, “You’re the worst mommy, EVER!” line, I was horrified. It took me days to convince myself that he was wrong. The last time he told me that, I offered to take him to the mall to pick out a new one.
Faiqa..we all have our days. You are an amazing mother and I am sure that Nuha knows that. I get grief from Maryam almost everyday about something. A few weeks ago she told me that I am not a good mom because I wont let her have dessert everyday. Ibraheem had a talk with her and I honestly dont know what he said to her. When he was done with her, she came and apologized to me and has never since said anything as mean as that. It might be something about girls and moms. It does seem to me that I butt heads with Maryam, something that Ibraheem and I never did..
Toronto? Tariq gets to do all the cool stuff!
Emma never tells me she wants a new mom. She just tells me about all of the things she’s going to get to do when I’m dead.
Hahaha! That’s an awesome comeback!
Faiqa,
GREAT comeback. I’m the opposite. Normally, when Sloan is having a “moment”, I just tell him, thanks for pointing that out. I sure have been wasting my time doing all of this “good mommy” stuff. Now, I don’t have to. Yeah! No more Happy Meals, trips to the Children’s Museum or Disney. I’m going to save SO much time and money! Sadly for him, he’s four and doesn’t quite understand the craziness that is pregnancy hormones. The other day, he told me that I was a bad mommy, because I didn’t get happy meals for lunch and I burst into tears. So did he. He’s been nice, ever since. Go figure.
Anjali has an entire pretend FAMILY. When she points out what Pretend Mama would do, I point out that I have my own Pretend Daughter and she does what I tell her to. Furthermore, Pretend Daughter gets my jewelry when I die. And yes, Anjali is already concerned with who gets my jewelry when I die. And yes, I AM watching my back!
Manoj has also been traveling, I feel your pain, sister!
There is no open menu in my kitchen. Once I have taken the time to prepare a healthy(ish) meal then that’s what you’re having.
Good to bed/nap time/granmas hungry. Makes no difference to me.
PS – what is it about quality time spent while the other parent is away that has edges so very frayed by the end of said quality time?
tel n. that i think you are a magnificent mom and that i am dying to have you adopt me…which means she will have to share all of her toys. i love grilled cheese, apples and edamame. and you!
I don’t even know what edamame is. You’re cruel, not caving in to her every desire.
I let my daughter know that when she goes to her new family, some other kid gets all her clothes, toys, shoes and pets. That usually makes her stop. Or you could try the old, “You know, I was going to take you to Steak N Shake for a milkshake if you ate all this dinner without complaining, but now…”
The best part is how easily they’re outdone. Ha!
Hang in there! Go get a pedicure and massage when Tariq gets home!
Given the pajamas reference, I misread the time as AM. Because of that, I’m now considering a morning detour to Steak ‘n Shake to try their breakfast. I should probably wait for a swim day — maybe Friday.
I don’t recall my kids ever talking about getting different parents, but I do know that I’ve thrown out the question, “Do you really think you have a bad situation here?” To which they’ve always responded by aborting their complaint* and agreeing that they have things pretty nice.
* Said complaint recently seems to be about my unwillingness to pay for her (the older daughter) to have an iPhone.
My girls told me they wanted new parents once. I loaded them up in the car.. when they asked where we were going I told them to Wal-Mart to get new parents. They freaked out and decided I wasn’t so bad after all. Now? They HATE Wal-Mart. It was a win win all the way around.
Testing your boundaries…
I would have glared at her then just walked away. You’re a far better parent than I am, because you actually parented her by letting her know she was being rude and selfish.
My son said I was the meanest mom in the world. I said that meant I was doing my job. I keep meaning to get that printed on a tshirt. Anytime he asks for something & I say no, he asks why not. I’m the meanest mom in the world, that’s why.
Oooh, I totally understand this. My 7 year old has discovered her temper and I’ve decided that as the youngest she needs to think again! I find myself frustrated with her fits after 6 years of the nicest baby.
I don’t know where to go with her from here…
Becca
Kids are SO demanding! I sometimes find it easier to do it on my own – when I know I have to, I ‘man up’ and somehow… it’s almost easier! I guess when I allow myself to be the boss, rather than having my kids boss ME around, things are generally easier!
But I also give in really easy and if they wanted a different breakfast, I’d make it for them, if it meant avoiding a fight!
Every so often Mack threatens to leave. I offer to help him pack.
Once he actually did leave and got as far as the mailbox before he got incensed that no one followed him, begging him to return.
You can’t show weakness. Ever.
So many pearls I’ve just soaked up reading all of these comments
Thank you all! I’ll note these for a few years down the road. I’m lucky Jude’s just 10 months old. And that he’s a boy, I think. 