Comments on: A Question of Respect http://native-born.com/2010/02/02/a-question-of-respect/ Culture, Family and this American Life Thu, 29 Jul 2010 19:33:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Elizabeth Kaylene http://native-born.com/2010/02/02/a-question-of-respect/comment-page-1/#comment-5989 Elizabeth Kaylene Mon, 08 Feb 2010 20:57:32 +0000 http://native-born.com/?p=1659#comment-5989 Everyone deserves respect -- unless the disrespect me. Then I just ignore them. And really, I do. I give them as little interaction as possible. I've never noticed anyone being more productive with less respect. I thought it worked the other way around. I think we need a field study with charts and diagrams! (; Everyone deserves respect — unless the disrespect me. Then I just ignore them. And really, I do. I give them as little interaction as possible.

I’ve never noticed anyone being more productive with less respect. I thought it worked the other way around. I think we need a field study with charts and diagrams! (;

]]> By: Avitable http://native-born.com/2010/02/02/a-question-of-respect/comment-page-1/#comment-5952 Avitable Sat, 06 Feb 2010 14:28:03 +0000 http://native-born.com/?p=1659#comment-5952 I try to be respectful in every encounter I have, but I also have no problem being forceful and standing up for myself at the same time. There's a point where respect turns into capitulation, though, and that's the line you don't want to cross. I try to be respectful in every encounter I have, but I also have no problem being forceful and standing up for myself at the same time. There’s a point where respect turns into capitulation, though, and that’s the line you don’t want to cross.

]]> By: Alecia, http://hoobingfamilyadventures.com http://native-born.com/2010/02/02/a-question-of-respect/comment-page-1/#comment-5946 Alecia, http://hoobingfamilyadventures.com Fri, 05 Feb 2010 15:29:28 +0000 http://native-born.com/?p=1659#comment-5946 Interesting. I used to be like you, 100% of the time, being extra, super-duper polite and unassuming. Then I moved to China. People like that get chewed up and spit out into some nasty, canal with sewage and the smell of pee to boot. If I learned nothing else while living in China, I learned that I need to be ASSERTIVE but polite, in that order. No need to be rude, but you have to make it clear what you need. So now, that is my strategy and it works much better than polite, unassuming. Interesting. I used to be like you, 100% of the time, being extra, super-duper polite and unassuming. Then I moved to China. People like that get chewed up and spit out into some nasty, canal with sewage and the smell of pee to boot. If I learned nothing else while living in China, I learned that I need to be ASSERTIVE but polite, in that order. No need to be rude, but you have to make it clear what you need. So now, that is my strategy and it works much better than polite, unassuming.

]]> By: Hockeymandad http://native-born.com/2010/02/02/a-question-of-respect/comment-page-1/#comment-5934 Hockeymandad Thu, 04 Feb 2010 01:51:27 +0000 http://native-born.com/?p=1659#comment-5934 Nope. It goes a long way. I worked several years in the service industry and I actually did more for those that were nicer to me. The nasty ones got quick work to keep them quiet. The nice people though got my total best and if they came back, that was even better. But respect and kindness NEVER goes unnoticed, even if they don't show it right away. Nope. It goes a long way. I worked several years in the service industry and I actually did more for those that were nicer to me. The nasty ones got quick work to keep them quiet. The nice people though got my total best and if they came back, that was even better.

But respect and kindness NEVER goes unnoticed, even if they don’t show it right away.

]]> By: Kate http://native-born.com/2010/02/02/a-question-of-respect/comment-page-1/#comment-5929 Kate Wed, 03 Feb 2010 22:21:42 +0000 http://native-born.com/?p=1659#comment-5929 I think, when you come at service people with an attitude, what they most want is to give you whatever it is you want so you'll shut up and go away. If you're nice and not pesky, you end up being a lower priority than someone who is being demanding and/or rude. It's messed up, but that has been my experience. I think, when you come at service people with an attitude, what they most want is to give you whatever it is you want so you’ll shut up and go away. If you’re nice and not pesky, you end up being a lower priority than someone who is being demanding and/or rude. It’s messed up, but that has been my experience.

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