Comments on: Shy Kid http://native-born.com/2008/04/08/shy-kid/ Culture, Family and this American Life Wed, 08 Sep 2010 15:37:11 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: sybil law http://native-born.com/2008/04/08/shy-kid/comment-page-1/#comment-55 sybil law Fri, 19 Sep 2008 01:54:00 +0000 http://faiqa2.wordpress.com/2008/04/08/shy-kid/#comment-55 Absolutely fantastic.<br/>Your daughter is GORGEOUS.<br/>And I agree completely - you have to be extra careful what you say to a child, especially with labels, because in a sense you are giving them their sense of who they are. Such a shame if someone says horrible, hurtful things to a kid. Absolutely fantastic.
Your daughter is GORGEOUS.
And I agree completely – you have to be extra careful what you say to a child, especially with labels, because in a sense you are giving them their sense of who they are. Such a shame if someone says horrible, hurtful things to a kid.

]]> By: mahnaz http://native-born.com/2008/04/08/shy-kid/comment-page-1/#comment-54 mahnaz Thu, 10 Apr 2008 02:03:00 +0000 http://faiqa2.wordpress.com/2008/04/08/shy-kid/#comment-54 Awsome blog, you are so right!! Awsome blog, you are so right!!

]]> By: nancy http://native-born.com/2008/04/08/shy-kid/comment-page-1/#comment-53 nancy Wed, 09 Apr 2008 21:16:00 +0000 http://faiqa2.wordpress.com/2008/04/08/shy-kid/#comment-53 This is so insightful. It reminds me of something that is really different on the one hand, but not on the other. When I was an undergrad, I had to do what they would now call "service learning", that is, volunteer for credit. I volunteered at a state mental hospital in a wing of boys, aged 6-12, who were diagnosed as "psychotic." I never considered that a little boy could be officially labeled psycho until I went there. After one weekend of volunteering for credit, I started going on my own to volunteer, because I got something out of it. One of the things that was so frustrating was that it was really clear that these children were some of the most loving, grateful, beautiful people I'd ever met. At the same time, they had deep mental problems, well beyond "normal" people's abilities to even imagine. However, it was as if--and in fact, it just was the case--that their lives were already ruined, because someone somewhere had already decided that their behavior, and their mental problems, was their inherent being. It was depressing. I could see these children already facing lives of total institutionalization. If not in mental hospitals today, I am sure they are in prison (this was nearly 20 years ago). It's hard to remember not to ascribe behavior as identity, but it's so important, isn't it? This is so insightful. It reminds me of something that is really different on the one hand, but not on the other. When I was an undergrad, I had to do what they would now call “service learning”, that is, volunteer for credit. I volunteered at a state mental hospital in a wing of boys, aged 6-12, who were diagnosed as “psychotic.” I never considered that a little boy could be officially labeled psycho until I went there. After one weekend of volunteering for credit, I started going on my own to volunteer, because I got something out of it. One of the things that was so frustrating was that it was really clear that these children were some of the most loving, grateful, beautiful people I’d ever met. At the same time, they had deep mental problems, well beyond “normal” people’s abilities to even imagine. However, it was as if–and in fact, it just was the case–that their lives were already ruined, because someone somewhere had already decided that their behavior, and their mental problems, was their inherent being. It was depressing. I could see these children already facing lives of total institutionalization. If not in mental hospitals today, I am sure they are in prison (this was nearly 20 years ago). It’s hard to remember not to ascribe behavior as identity, but it’s so important, isn’t it?

]]> By: Sahar http://native-born.com/2008/04/08/shy-kid/comment-page-1/#comment-52 Sahar Wed, 09 Apr 2008 03:31:00 +0000 http://faiqa2.wordpress.com/2008/04/08/shy-kid/#comment-52 Why have you not published a book already?? You express your thoughts with such beauty..kudos to you. <br/><br/>After reading this Blog, I realized that I too label Ibraheem as being shy from time to time. Infact, he really isnt shy. He is just not comfortable showing all his emotions to strangers..<br/>Thanks..I really enjoyed this..<br/><br/>PS: Good to see you "come out of the closet".. Why have you not published a book already?? You express your thoughts with such beauty..kudos to you.

After reading this Blog, I realized that I too label Ibraheem as being shy from time to time. Infact, he really isnt shy. He is just not comfortable showing all his emotions to strangers..
Thanks..I really enjoyed this..

PS: Good to see you “come out of the closet”..

]]> By: Amreen http://native-born.com/2008/04/08/shy-kid/comment-page-1/#comment-51 Amreen Wed, 09 Apr 2008 02:48:00 +0000 http://faiqa2.wordpress.com/2008/04/08/shy-kid/#comment-51 Your blog is so cute I really enjoyed reading it but was thinking in the back of my mind what am I labeling Inaya unintentionally. Your blog is so cute I really enjoyed reading it but was thinking in the back of my mind what am I labeling Inaya unintentionally.

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